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Age and Attraction

Last week I went out with someone who wanted to see It’s Complicated. Let me just say that I applaud Hollywood for showing that mature, middle-age adults can experience lust and enjoy sex with other mature, middle-age adults.

Let me also say that I found the site of Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin making out to be repulsive. And I found the character of Baldwin’s young wife–who was the closest thing to a villain–totally hot.

I don’t find myself attracted to many women my age any more. And I certainly don’t blame anyone for being turned off by my expanding waistline, gray and thinning hair, and creaking knees.

So there you have it, my honest thoughts on sex and age.

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05.01.2009 Holiday blues...

Staying on holiday so far away from home has two disadvantages: The first is that people forget that there is indeed a time difference and that phoning me in the evening means waking me up after midnight. Well, one might say, that one could simply switch off the cell during night – and yes, that’s right. But – and this is the second disadvantage: climax points of disasters and worries happening normally especially, when one is far away – so one is needed the most, when one is far away… Or is that only my fantasy??

Nevertheless, Bangkok is starting to fill up again with people and cars and noise; normal life has come back to the city of angels. And checking the news I see our president dancing the Zulu wedding dance in full leopard outfit – his third wife, not to count the divorced one and the deceased one – and it is mentioned that he is already engaged with future wife number four. And it comes to my mind what that all means to fidelity in marriage – and the concept of marriage as we Catholics have. Not to mention that his now third wife has already three kids – so sexuality must have been practiced before marriage. Which is obvious for most Africans, as after paying the lobola the couple is allowed to engage in sexual activities before the wedding ceremony – old African traditions – once again – what does this mean to the more Eurocentric view of Catholicism which puts sex only into the marriage.

Here in Bangkok I am reading in the moment a book about katoeys – the third gender in Thailand – and once again I asked myself, what does the existence of such a third gender mean in the framework of Catholic moral theology.

So not, only sleepless nights, but also so many questions and so little answer…  And all this has indeed also to do with the topic of HIV and AIDS and how we approach it.. Well, I still have more than a week time to find some… 

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Kim Cattrall reveals she is too insecure

From the DailyTelegraph.com:

Too insecure to be a cougar … Actress Kim Cattrall, who says she is not anything like her character Samantha Jones in Sex And The City.  On screen Sex And The City’s Kim Cattrall is a man-eater par excellence, but the reality for this single woman is a lot different.The most naturally beautiful of the four lead actresses – Sarah Jessica Parker, Kristin Davis and Cynthia Nixon – has done much to liberate the sex lives of 40-something women. She even wrote books on the subject (Satisfaction: the Art of the Female Orgasm and Sexual Intelligence).

“But I think it’s since taken on a negative connotation – as a woman of a certain age hanging out in a club where she can pick up young men,” says Kim, who clearly feels there’s a desperation about this that’s a million miles from Samantha’s poise and sophistication.”I never thought that was what the character represented. I’m sure there are women who do that, but I never considered Samantha to be that. And certainly not myself; I mean, I could not go into a bar and pick up a man – that is so foreign to me it’s not even in my hemisphere. I am totally insecure. That is predatory behaviour, and I don’t consider myself a predator. In fact, I feel sometimes that I am the pursued,” she told The Mail On Sunday newspaper.

After three marriages and a recent break-up of her five-year relationship with chef Alan Wyse, 20 years her junior, Kim is single. Is she enjoying her freedom?

“Well, I’m not sure if I’m there yet. I’ve been so busy since we split that I haven’t had much time to adjust. I’m starting to date; it feels all right. It’s very hard to be private about that. Whenever you step out for a drink or dinner, whomever you’re with becomes your latest beau. Which is a bit of a laugh for my gay friends.”

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song of a different paradise

GL and i spent three gloriously fun, intimate, affectionate, passionate, intriguing, arousing days together this past week. when in the presence of his son, we talked, walked, read, ate, shared seemingly mundane but joyous moments as a threesome.

as a twosome, we intertwined our bodies, caressing, kissing, touching, exploring, moving, moaning, entering, pushing. and in between, we shared our thoughts, our aspirations, our past, our present.

i was emotionally exhausted today after GL got up at 4 am to catch the return flight back to SF and back to his gf, his life, to a parallel universe from mine, where we will pick up where we left off, compartmentalizing our transactions, our conversations, our relationship(s). it didn’t hit me until i was talking to AdC that i was emotionally exhausted, sounding incoherent. she asked why i was so tired. i lied of course and said i’ve been run down by the holiday hustle and bustle. but the reality is, after processing it with the few braincells left, i’m exhausted because i’m emotionally spent. the days spent with GL were glorious. i enjoyed them so much so and i feel happy that we had that time/space to be with each other. but i also realized that i was holding my breath in some ways. i didn’t let myself become too deluded by our intimacy, sharing, affections. i didn’t want to sink too deep into this world of couple-hood that is ephemeral and nebulous. and i had to keep in check my feelings every time he mentioned his gf(s). it was such a constant internal, emotional negotiation for me. no wonder i’m so exhausted.

plus, i was processing so much information that he volunteered willingly. and on the one hand, i feel honored that he’s so willing to share and felt he can trust me. on the other hand, i felt so much weight on me…so much information that i wasn’t really able to process and had to wait for his trip to come to an end before i can really process and digest, and understand how all these information shape him. and how these information affected his attitude towards me/us (although i cannot confidently say there’s an “us”). i’m still processing.

i’ll have time to process this in the months to come, before i see him again in march. perhaps by then i’ll have a firmer grasp and deeper insight on how i should proceed with this situation we’re in. i do believe now too, although i have to just put it into practice, not to make any sweeping generalizations or grand decisions/finales based on the limited information i have. i do have to be more prudent and attuned. who’s to say how this will end, good or bad.

p.s. i think i said something about how he’s so american but now cannot remember what i was referring to.

p.p.s. we danced. we sang. we ate well. we got high and we got drunk. at least we have fun with each other.

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Sex Myths, Unwrapped

My friend Keenan sent me a funny link to the top ten sex myths, and it inspired me to talk about a few more not mentioned.

1. Long sex is equivalent to good sex. Just because you can keep it up for a two-hour  marathon doesn’t  mean you should. It is very possible to have too much of a good thing, and sex that drags on for longer than it should falls under that category. As a guy, you might be thinking the longer the better (to stoke your ego and please your honey) but in truth, the average male reaches orgasm in 5-7 minutes, and the average female 10-15.  After 20 minutes or so your girlfriend may still be putting on a nice performance for you, but she is probably really thinking about last nights episode of The Hills or  wondering what she should have for breakfast. Go for quality, not quantity , and by that I mean wow her in the first fifteen minutes (if you can make it that long) and then call it quits. That way, you will leave her wanting more, and she will still be able to walk tomorrow.

2. Leave the lights on. When you’re getting down, you want to have confidence in yourself, and to be comfortable with the situation. If it takes dimming the lights to get there, so be it. Add to this the fact that a bright overhead light shining in your eyes will leave you squinting, and not so sexy. There are some of us (myself included) who do like to strut around naked in the bedroom, the living room, the supermarket (what?) with no clothes on and feel pretty good about it. However, no matter how good you think you look naked, you probably look even better with the lights dimmed or some candle action.

3. Food in bed is a good idea. I love eating…in the kitchen. Food in bed is sticky, slimy and an all around mess if taken in between the sheets. Leave the honey in its pot on the counter and the whipped cream in the fridge, please.

4. If you have regular sex, you don’t need to masturbate. I have a couple female friends who have gotten pissed at their boyfriends for giving themselves a little one on one time.  Masturbating, even when you are in a relationship, is healthy for a variety of reasons. First of which is the fact that you can be selfish, and you don’t have to think about pleasing the other person while also pleasing yourself (which you DO do, right??!?!) Also, some alone time is good and healthy for a relationship, and this can be regarded with a weekly girls or guys night out, or a romp in the sheets with yourself. And most of all, masturbating (and all sexual activity in general) increases your sex drive. It’s like sugar (or crack) the more you get it, the more you want it. So really, you’re only making your sex life better. Tell that to your girlfriend the next time she finds your stash of porn and gets her panties in a twist.

5. All guys give good oral, right? Wrong. This one I want to take a moment to disagree with number 6 in mademen list, which was that giving good cunnilingus is easy. The guy who wrote that must have been bitter because he sucks at oral sex and is trying to cover for it. Or maybe he is just incredibly gifted and therefor arrogant..or maybe he is just really short and has a complex… Whatever that dudes problem is, it needs to be said that it is very, very possible to be gifted in that department, just as it is even more possible to be terrible at it. I’ve got a few female friends who are completely indifferent to oral sex and I am convinced it’s because the guys they have been with are incompetent or worse, lazy. Just like anything else, practice makes perfect. Communication will only improve the situation, so be sure to ask your girlfriend, wife, whatever, exactly what she likes. Ladies, tell your boyfriends what is working and what is not, don’t let him suffocate under the sheets without a clue. An easy way to do that is to get him down their and then be extremely er, vocal, when he is hitting a good spot.

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From the Telegraph

Europeans too selfish to have children, says Chief Rabbi

Europe is “dying’’ because its secular residents are too selfish to have children, according to Lord Sacks, the Chief Rabbi.

The leader of Britain’s Jewish community claimed the continent’s population is in decline because people care more about shopping than the sacrifice involved in parenthood

Lord Sacks said: “Parenthood involves massive sacrifice of money, attention, time and emotional energy.

“Where today in European culture with its consumerism and instant gratification – because you’re worth it – where will you find space for the concept of sacrifice for the sake of generations not yet born?

“Europe, at least the indigenous population of Europe, is dying.”

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