There are a lot of things I like when it comes to sex. I like my ears nibbled, my neck kissed, my torso squeezed, my throat choked and hair pulled and ass smacked (these three LIGHTLY)
One thing I do not like is to be asked 2 minutes after getting into bed “What do you like?” I know this seems harsh, an unfair complaint against an attempt to be a pleasing and giving lover. But to me it’s cheating. It’s taking the easy road, which rarely leads anywhere worth going.
It is like skipping to the end of a mystery novel, flipping over the trivia card, giving up your three guesses. It is not fun to have the answer handed to you outright at the start of the game, kids. The good stuff, the sweet stuff, the creamy center is in the finding out. Instead of rushing through the puzzle of my body, try a few potential solutions to your buzzing quandry of what I want. Your answer will come in moans (or lack of) instead of instruction manuel directions or awkward hesitation.
What sort of answer does one expect to this question, anyway? It implies a prolific plethora of possilbe responses. “I’d like to be strapped to the hood of a car, covered in liquid latex, penetrated by a rolling pin, and when we’re all done, could you just hold me?” (NO judgement if this really is what you like. But then, you are a rare bird to say it the first time in bed, my friend.)
Most of us want similar things. At least, not too drastically different things, in various combinations and with reasonable modifications. Kiss, suck, lick, bite, stroke, rub, touch, tickle, hold, inside, be inside, come inside. Repeat.
What changes most drastically is what feels good with you. Or me. That is, what feels good between us. I once had an affair with boy who was a champion choker, could do it just right, would do it all the time, to my utter delight. After him came a boy who could almost bring me to orgasm by just licking my ear. Choking boy wasn’t bad at ear stimulation, but it wasn’t his forte. Ear master, however, was not allowed to choke me.
The real question is, what do we like together? And since we’ve just started trying, I DON’T KNOW any better than you do. The great part is, if we take our time and enjoy ourselves, we get to find out together.
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